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The-Lives-of-Abused-and-Battered-Women

 

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Believe in yourself

Believe in yourself
Sometimes we have to believe in ourselves.
Many will settle for us to stay hidden on a shelf.
We have to step out in faith, in order for the race to be run.
It may not be a game, nor a whole lot of fun.
Atleast! The battle will have begun.
We will be proud of ourselves, knowing that we’ve done all that we can do.
What a glorious day when our lives seem more sunny and blue.
Man will let us down, but God will be there for you.
Never give up on you, your hopes and dreams, so get a clue.
This is merely a kind word from me to you.
Will you knock me down, or will you stand for me too?
Barbara

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Don’t Judge me by the places that I’ve been

Don’t Judge the Book by the Cover
Don’t judge me by the color of my skin.
Don’t judge me by the places that I have or haven’t been.
Don’t judge me if you should find me stressed, sitting with my hand on my chin.
Don’t judge me if I do something wrong and you do the same thing, a sin is always a sin.
Don’t judge me if I should pass you and forget to grin.
Don’t judge me if my clothes are worn a little thin.
Don’t judge me if I should fall off of the wagon and need a hand every now and then.
Don’t judge me if you helped me yesterday, and you look up and here I am again.
Don’t judge me if I’m out, when I should have been in.
Don’t judge me If my life style is not up to par, and treat me like an unwanted kin.
Don’t judge me if I ask for a helping hand or suggestion as to how I can win.
Don’f judge me by the things that I’ve done, or the mistakes that I did way back when.

I’m someone special, if only you’d take a look inside this ole vessel, you’ll be shocked to realize that you have judged me and it was truly a sin.
Barbara

The Lives of Abused and Battered Women reviewed by Fran Lewis

  

Inspirational, courageous and brilliantly written, October 19, 2009

By  Fran Lewis “Fran and Bertha” See all my reviews

The Lives of Abused and Battered Women
By Author: Barbara Ann Hart

Reviewed by Fran Lewis

When a woman believes that it is okay to become someone’s punching bag she is sending herself a poor message. When a woman feels that she has the inability to place the fault on the person who is punching her and creating the abuse, she needs to rethink and reaffirm her rights as a person and whom she really is.

There are many kinds of abuse that people endure throughout their lives. Whether it is child, sexual, physical, emotion, intimidation or verbal abuse, it is still wrong and the abuser needs to be dealt with and made to realize that their actions and words will not go unpunished.

Emotional abuse is more harmful and detrimental than you think. The scars are hidden and cannot be seen on the outside but are ever lasting ones that often destroy the person’s self-esteem, self-respect and feelings of self-worth. No one has the right to do this to anyone in any way.

As our author so brilliantly tells her story and shares the many experiences she encountered when dealing with different types of abuse and abusers, we learn some serious lessons that must be taught and remembered by all women. One of the worst things that can happen to a person as described by the author is being made to feel that you are worthless and not good enough to be in anyone’s air space and because of that you deserve the poor hand that you are being dealt. Men often abuse women because they have low self images, low self-esteem and in order to make themselves feel self-important and more in control, they try intimidation, fear, guilt, shame and physical harm in order to take strong, powerful and intelligent women down into the pits of the gutter where these men really reside.
As the author shares many of the true life incidents that she went through and others close to her too, we learn that men often become violent and abusive when women are more successful than they are, have better jobs, can handle difficult issues better than they can and can move on in many different directions when things do not work out for them. They demean and verbally insult the women causing some women to self-inflict their own abuse on themselves by feeling they deserve to be unhappy when their partner is too. NO YOU ARE NOT!
Women need to realize that who and what they are is just fine. Take a paper and make a list of all the things that you want for yourself and in life and post it on a wall in a room, bulletin board in just in notebook. At the top of the list label it THIS IS WHAT I WANT FOR ME in order to make your life go on an uphill climb. Our author related stories about women who felt the need to put the desires of men ahead of theirs and were often deflated and left alone when the desires were met and they found someone else to fill them in what they feel might be a better way. Take that list and add to it what you want in a partner and the qualities that you both should have to make the relationship work. Then, decide what you need for your success and do not settle for less.
The one thing that my mother taught me and I have never forgotten till this day is to be financially independent of any man whether a husband, boyfriend or anyone and never ask for anything that you cannot get for yourself. Marriage is a definite partnership with each party sharing the responsibilities whether financial, household chores and more. But, when one person forgets his place and decides that mistreating the other is the only way he can find an excuse to wander, leave and default on his responsibilities, it is your job to show him the door and keep it locked or better yet change the locks. She also taught me after many years of learning the hard way, that you must never love someone more than they love you and put your needs at the top of the list.
The message conveyed in this book is meant for women and men. No one has the right to debase, demoralize or diminish the inner soul, inner being and inner core of another person. There are many gears people use when driving a car and the one that you must never use when dealing in a relationship is reverse. Move ahead and drive and establish yourself as a brave, courageous and independent women who can manage on her own and when she feels the need for companionship it will be on her terms and with the understanding that her rights and feelings will not be violated.
The author tells about women and describes how they cheat with other women’s partners whether married or not. These women are not as self-assured as you would think. They need control and they need to feel important and in order to do that they prey on good; kind and unsuspecting women who they feel are weaker than they are and will succumb to their rude and mentally dismantling ways. Men who cheat do it to feel virile, dominant and in their own terms manlier. Not so, they are just are little boys who want to feel grown up in an adult’s body and if the situation were reversed and you left them, they will not see it as anything that they might have done but blame it on you.

It takes a woman of courage, valor and integrity to open her life and her heart to her readers and share her experiences with us in order to inspire and teach other women and even men that any kind of abuse is wrong and we will not stand for it. Women often demean and can be hurtful when a man loses his job or becomes ill and cannot work. In-excusable. But, when that same man does not appreciate the loyalty, kindness and compassion afforded to him by his companion or partner, then he needs a lesson in more than just plain humility and kindness. Life is meant to be spent doing what makes us happy and brings joy into our hearts and minds. God is watching over all of us and will always be there when we need him.
Barbara Ann Hart has written a book that is meant to remind us everyone is unique and special in his or her own right. Everyone has a voice and it must never be silenced. Everyone is capable of love and when someone denies you that love or makes you feel less than whom you are, do what you do when you are typing and you make a mistake-DELETE him from your life and start over again.

Here is my message to you:
Barbara you have surely eased the pain of many by writing this book.
Barbara you have made many including this reviewer stronger in mind and heart by having read your book.
Barbara you are an amazing woman who will not stand for anyone hurting her or those close to you. You deserve God’s blessing and strength and kindness.

Diamonds are the most precious and valuable stones. Their worth never goes down. To every woman out there: YOU ARE MORE PRECIOUS THAN THE HOPE DIAMOND OR THE LARGEST STONE IN Cartier’s OR HARRY Winston’s. WOMEN UNITE: FAIR WARNING: NEVER AGAIN: NO MORE! WOMEN UNITE: SISTERS ONE AND FOR ALL!

This is a great book and I never give stars: I give this book FIVE RAYS OF GOLDEN SUNSHINE: NO MORE CLOUDS OR STORMS IN YOUR LIFE
Fran Lewis: Reviewer

Heart-Boosting Poetry reviewed by Fran Lewis

 

 

Heart Boosting Poetry

By Barbara Hart

 

From the author of The Lives of Battered and Abused Women we get a book of inspirational and thought provoking poetry that will not only make the reader smile but take a long hard look at life and its ups and downs. In this compilation of poetry the author relates in her own unique way her feelings about friendship, love, God and loss and understanding. Throughout the book she sites examples of what a true friend should be, what she expects from others and what others have done to not only disappoint her but to uplift her spirits as well.

 

This is a book that should be kept by your bedside and read every night. There are so many poems that will make you smile and remind you of all the precious moments in life that made you feel great and the ones that you chose to forget too. But, that’s okay. Life is not about what is perfect all the time. Life is also about learning those hard lessons and not repeating the same mistakes as the author so aptly relates in the poem Second Chance.

 

There are so many poems that I really love but the ones that hit home were about her mother. You can feel how much she misses her and how she embraced her love, understanding and their times together in the poem entitled Mother. Hoping that she made her mother proud of her and that her mother could take a cloudy day and bring out the sunshine and blue skies is heart warming and heartfelt. My mom has Alzheimer’s and she brought out the best in all of her children and she expected them to be the best they could ever be in life. She accepted us for who were and never put us down. From reading this poem and the second one entitled Remembrance of Mother, the reader can tell how much she misses her best friend, her mother.

 

The poem We Were Friends So I Thought, definitely defines what a friend should and should not be. Friends are supposed to be there no matter what and should not be judgmental but open with their feelings and thoughts. When relating their opinion or answers to a question you might need answered, a true friend will give you the answer they hope you will give them so that the outcome will be positive.

 

The poem If really gives the reader pause for thought. If you had a million dollars you could do a lot of things but you could not make yourself a better person than you are. A true friend is worth more than money and is truly rare. The author’s belief in God and that he will always be there to guide her and help her through her trials and tribulations is uplifting and allows the reader to know that the author will never give up on herself, life or happiness.

 

The poems, When Lord, and Lord, I Don’t Understand are two poems that allow the reader to understand the author and her feelings about God and life. Everyone wants happiness and everyone wants a guiding hand to let us know that we are on the right path. But, our author has shed a bright light on all of us with her poetry and allowing everyone into her heart, soul and mind. As she states in her poem Sometimes: “Life seems so hard trying to hold on, and stay strong.” Never give up on yourself and never let others bring you down. You have a strong voice and it is being heard. This is a book of poetry that I will keep on my nightstand to read every night.

 

Barbara Ann Hart you have truly written a book that would make your mother proud and everyone that reads it understand as you said,” Make positive and worthwhile decisions and that beautiful picture, you can be proud of will be in a frame.” That face to be proud of is yours our author.

 

You need to read this book and choose the ones that touch your heart the most and embrace it and reread it and remember as out author says: God Will Never Pass You By.

 

This book deserves five beautiful red and pink hearts.

Fran Lewis: reviewer