Archive for January, 2010

Quick to condemn, slow to offer a hand

People are quick to condemn/ slow to offer a hand

People are quick to condemn but, slow to offer a helping hand. Some of the people that are dealing with abuse is the main ones’ that are so cold hearted, that is the only reason that one could imagine their coldness towards someone that has had the life drained out of them. People fail to realize that even though someone has been abused/stayed in the situation for God knows how long, it could have just as well been them. It could have been them; their sibling, friend, or even a stranger on the street. Some people would prefer to give a harsh word, or a cold shoulder than to offer a helping hand and that is so sad. We never know where our lives will take a turn for the worst, we would not want people to be that way with us. It is not a good thing to say what we would or wouldn’t do. People fail to realize that God can allow us to be in the same situation to let us know how it feels, and what the others are truly having to deal with.
Barbara

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A cheating mate

 ” Will they cheat again?”

  The question was asked, if you should stay with your mate if he/she cheats? You put them out and after a period of time you allow them to come back and they begin to treat you better but, the trust is gone. My opinion is:

They always say that if they cheat once they’ll do it again. I think you know the answer as to what you should do. Sure they’ll change until the next time. That is the main reason we women go through abuse for so long, because we keep hoping that things will change. My mother, God rest her soul told me that a man couldn’t hurt me unless I allowed it. I didn’t know what she meant at the time. Later, I realized that she meant that the first time that he hurt me that I should have walked. We ask why God allows men to continue to abuse us for so long. At the first sight of the mess God allows us to get through it and we give the abuser another chance. Then they come up with something else and God steps in and helps us out again. Each time it gets worse and worse. We keep asking God why he is allowing it to happen to us and God says “I showed you the first time that you should leave and, you decided to give it another chance”. He (God) says “I kept giving you a reason to leave and you kept finding a reason to stay”. Now you/we find ourselves caught up and no hope in sight. You don’t hurt the one that you love. You have to learn to love yourself more than you love someone else, especially when they are treating you like dog crap. I don’t mean to hurt your feelings but, you don’t want to find yourself on the mountain top with no way down. I can’t say that he will or will not hurt you, only time will tell. Sometimes we know what we should do but, we don’t want to be alone or whatever my come about. I’ve learned that it is better to be alone and at peace than to never know what to say, feel, think, do, or when something else will pop up out of the wood works that is not a good life to live. I pray that you make the right decision, whatever it may be.

 Barbara

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Take the time to show a little love and compassion

“Take the time to show a little love”

 “Every now and again show a little love and compassion and, take the time out to share a helping hand or kind word or two”. We never know when that small effort will get someone over that hurdle that they thought was so hard to climb. It’s not always what we have that takes us to the top but, how we use it.

“Do you know someone that has been abused”?

Do you know someone that has been abused”?

Do you know of someone that has, or is being abused? How are they?  There are many things that we can do and say to give them hope for a brighter day. No one knows how it truly feels to have to deal with abuse unless they have walked a mile or two in their shoes. You may be standing on the outside looking in but, you have no clue or inkling just what that person that is being abused really feels. It’s easy to say what they should or shouldn’t do if it is not you. The one thing that you can do to really touch their heart is to pray for them, not be so quick to be judgmental. If you were in their shoes you may very well find yourself doing the same thing that they are, or worse. You can find kind ways to give them a little hope, even if there seems to be no sign of hope. Remind them that God is the author and the finisher and he want allow it to go on forever. You have to let them know that they are special and that you love them in spite of what they may be going through or allowing for the time being.

            I was in and out of abusive relationships (with boyfriends) for about twenty five years of my life. I found myself in each of these relationships and I stayed trying to make it work. I did what ever I could to try to make it better. I know about all of those cold harsh words that would almost drain the life out of you. How those words would cut and slice you like a two-edged sword, in spite of it I stayed trying to find a way to make the situation change. The thought of being told that no one would want you but for one thing, that really put the icing on the cake. Anyone in their right mind would have known that they were there too only for that one thing. They would have packed their bags and never looked back. I can only say that I wasn’t in my right mind either.  There is hope for you if you don’t give up or in. It took me all of those years of being treated like dirt, to realize that, that wasn’t the lifestyle that I wanted for myself and so I walked. Being abused doesn’t mean that you have to give up on your hopes and dreams, no matter how bad the situation looks or seems. There was no one there to encourage me when I was going through the hurt and pain. I decided to use my trials through the help of God to be a blessing of others that have, or maybe dealing with abuse. I want to be an up lifter of their hearts. I wrote the following words to encourage the hearts of women that have had to deal with abuse. Books written to be a blessing to abused women, “The Lives of Abused and Battered Women” and Heart-Boosting Poetry” sold at: http://www.amazon.com,   http://www.barnes&noble.com, and http://www.buybooksontheweb.com

Enthusiastic Woman you are

Extremely radiant and well put together.

Never give up on your hopes and dreams.

Trust in your self worth.

Have faith as small as a grain of mustard seed.

Unique work of art from start to finish, “You are.

 Strive to reach the mark of your high calling of God.

I see royalty in “You”.

Aspiring woman you are”

Simply Beautiful and Magnificent,You” are.

Take the time out to see the self worth in you.

I pray favor and blessings over your live.

Caress your heart, no one can love you, like you.

Abused doesn’t mean that you give up on You

Being abused doesn’t mean that you give up on You

Being abused doesn’t mean that you should give up on yourself. There is hope for you even if you don’t see it. In the midst of each and every one of your trials, continue to believe in yourself. No matter how cold and harsh the words may be, my prayers are sent out for a better and brighter day for thee. Never give up on your hopes and dreams, and soon the sun will begin to shine brighter so that a breakthrough you will be able to see. Hold on just a little while longer. Every ounce of hope makes you stronger. You’re not alone, I’ve been there too. That is the reason that my prayers will soon come through to you. I held on to my dignity no matter how my heart was wounded. I pray that there is a blessing in the midst of your storm. I pray that your life will be at peace and that your heart will be calm. No matter what you do, never give up. I pray that God will soon step in and fill your cup. It took me about twenty five years to take my life back and not allow anyone to abuse or treat me that way again. I know about the pain that is in your heart. I realized that I was better than the way that I was being treated.  I learned the real meaning of self love; which is the greatest love of all other that the love of God. Now I pour my heart out to you, to be a blessing and to uplift your heart, mind and soul.   Even after all of your pain you can still make it. You too can use your trials to be a blessing to others. I love you my sister, take a hold of my hand and, I’ll do my best to help you to stand.

Barbara